Thank you, especially Raymond and Evergreen, for sharing your stories with us.
Naturally, my first reaction is sympathy and horror, because for me that's a natural and instinctive reaction, but I understand why neither of you want that.
But your stories have actually helped me no end, because what they have done is put my own story into perspective and made me realise that I'm in no way alone in having a crap childhood and a mother who was humiliating and verbally abusive, and a father who I was afraid of. The worst thing when you're undergoing these treatments and events is thinking you're the only one, and no-one knows what it's like to have awful things happen to you. It creates an awful sense of isolation and loneliness and makes you feel cut off from the rest of society, if not the world. At least that's how I felt.
It helps me no end to know that others have suffered too, and this suffering gives us a unique bond of understanding, and those of us who have withstood it and overcome it stand as a great example to others who may not have reached that stage yet. It really is a message of hope, encouragement, and triumph over adversity, and that's more comforting than any sympathetic words. I know I do relapse sometimes, but I'm getting there.
Beany abuse is very isolating, I never told a sole... ... I made up my mind then there was no point I just had to get through it and get out :)
there is adversity in life in so many forms.. and while I have felt sorry for myself at times I never found it helped me and then one day I realised that the longer I felt sorry for me the more trapped I was in the situation ... so I decided that the person I should feel sorry for was my mother and I began to see her in a new light... still miserable and mean but no longer powerful and scary... it is so empowering.. What I did was take all the emotion out of the situation and see her as a person outside of me..and I let go of all the blame I had felt for being her daughter....
sometimes I was weak and asked the one question that can never be answered ---- Why? I will never get an answer because there is no reason is there....
why really doesn't matter .. what does is where to now....?!?
you are doing well Beany all you can do is be yourself and love you for you _________________ as a babe drinks from its mothers breast so too does man milk mother earth
all of your sufferings and trials are a result of your heathen sinful ways. can you not see the connection. turn away now and save your souls and those of your children
all of your sufferings and trials are a result of your heathen sinful ways. can you not see the connection. turn away now and save your souls and those of your children
What about the love of God? Where is the love here? _________________
The world has been and always will be filled with people who are suffering in one way or another.
It is up to each of us on how we handle this.
This is what makes the human experience, and if we can help each other along the way then at least we are doing something pro active for each other, not denying and threatening doom and gloom on all.
You would have us go back to the dark ages with plagues and pestilence
all of your sufferings and trials are a result of your heathen sinful ways. can you not see the connection. turn away now and save your souls and those of your children
very very christian view point.. now I feel so enlightened
now can we be saved
_________________ as a babe drinks from its mothers breast so too does man milk mother earth
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