I often think that if our minds are elswhere we might as well be sleeping.
How much time do we spend in the illusiory world of mind.
We worry about the future, this is an illusion because past and future does not exist outside of our mind. and think about the past. We feel guilt for things done and opportunities missed. Why? _________________ Please visit our main site
to reflect and learn is to grow with understanding but to reflect with regret or disappointment and guilt is pointless it can really only hold us back kind of suspend us in time
living in the moment can be very hard for many ... some say stop and smell the flowers .. other just say appreciate each now day
I like to encourage others not to look to far ahead as it is important to realise that living now is what will get us to that ahead _________________ as a babe drinks from its mothers breast so too does man milk mother earth
it is a hard thing ..don't be pissed off with parents they are only doing what they know.. and they think they should do... as a mum of three I know I really don't want to be the monkey on my kids back.. but will I be ?? most likely in some areas I will be even with all the thought and effort I put into teaching them about their own healing and their own work and mine too....
I think it is less about forgiving parents and more about understanding them and then seeing where we are the same and working on us because we cant' change them... and for us parents we perhaps need to step back and look at who our kids really are not who we think they can be _________________ as a babe drinks from its mothers breast so too does man milk mother earth
David, that quote you're thinking of is from Kahlil Gibran's The Prophet.
Here it is in full:
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
Which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward, nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
I have a copy of that on my wall.... its beautiful
I find its good to remind ourselves that about ALL people be they parents children friends or partners _________________ as a babe drinks from its mothers breast so too does man milk mother earth
we are also not respobsible for the horns they grow
and if that is true which it is then we are not responsible for the wings they sprout either :) _________________ as a babe drinks from its mothers breast so too does man milk mother earth
I found that poem quoted in a book called The Return by Josephine Sellers, when I read it in the mid-1990s, and it meant so much to me I copied it into an exercise book to keep, as a lesson.
When I became a parent, the only role model I had to go on was my own parents (adoptive) and the only thing I learned from them was what NOT to do. I was afraid of my father, and kept out of his way as much as possible, and my mother was a manipulative control freak who tried to influence everything I did and thought. She didn't succeed, mind!
This poem sums up exactly how I feel, and how I tried to treat my own children. You must give children the tools and abilities they need to be able to live their own lives and stand on their own feet. Everything this poem says is so true: you can't live your childrens' lives for them, or your own through them, or dictate what they think, and you can't treat them like property. If you love them, let them go, and then they will always come back to you and you'll never lose them. Try to keep them prisoner, and they'll get away and you'll never see them again. I was that child.
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