Trust

meiah · Trust

What would it be like to be truly open and fearless enough to trust freely

Bravo

Dangerous

evergreen

freedom

david hobbs · Re: Trust

beantighe

Or truly dead!! I used to trust too easily, and came a cropper every time. Now I find it hard to trust at all.

evergreen

trust of the self.. I think that is one of the most important things.. trusting your own gut/intuition

nothing at all to do with trusting others

swanlady

I have to agree with Beany on this one.
I too have been too trusting and only tonight, i did something that i am very ashamed of.

I wrote someone an email and i was like a wild banshee in the reply to her.
She tried to threaten me and i replied with swearing and cursing at her.
I totally lost my self control in the reply email. I told her to stay the F*** away from me and my family.
It was someone i know on the net, not personally in real life.

I can,t believe i called her all those vile names.
Anyone that truly knows me, knows that i don,t swear. but yet i could,nt believe how much swearing i directed at this person.

She said some pretty nasty things to me in the politest way, and i retaliated like a bull in a china shop. sighs.

I am really ashamed of myself at the moment. But my trust in people is waning bloody fast.

evergreen

swanny did you ever get the feeling that she was up to no good before she was openly ?

swanlady

Yes i did EG hun. but the things she said to me and threatened me with in an email to me were terrible. It would,nt have been so bad if it was the truth. but i swear on everything that is sacred to me, she twisted and tuned my words to make me look like a monster. and then i totally flipped on her.

But for the whole time i knew her which is a few months, I felt very uncomfortable as some of the things she was on bout.well they were just not normal for a person to be doing those things.

I won,t repeat what she had been up to for many years as i will not be spiteful and malicious, That is up to her if she can,t be true to herself.

But i will not tolerate this person making me out to be someone or thing i most certainly am not.

But i am ashamed of myself in the manner i replied to her in an email.
I,m not proud of myself for that.

evergreen

so the one person you didn't trust was you :) it isn't about others

swanlady

Yes i did and do trust me actually. I just felt uncomfortable with this person. There are many many people on the net who i feel very comfortable with. just not this one person.

evergreen

meiah

david hobbs

meiah

By trust, I mean not to judge, or to rely on someone or to pass my own responsibility to them. Instead I mean to willingly and freely accept what is there, what is offered, what is THERE, with no fear, no expectation to be met, no debt to be answered, no compromise....just complete, open innocent trust.
This is very different from being gullible, or with expectations. It is pure, and simple trust.

To trust in this way, there is no let down, no failure to meet expectations, because none are set, no judgement has been made, or will be made. Thats not what it is about.

I am finding hard to verbalise such a simple and pure concept.

beantighe

You've lost me, I'm afraid. I don't understand this concept of trust. I'm not good at abstract thought.

swanlady

I believe Mia is talking about the kind of trust i have with my husband and children.
Another word for it is unconditional love.

evergreen

Meiah sounds like she is talking about the kind of trust that involves ..trusting what is begin offered to you right now is right.. it is what you need st this time .. so kind of trusting in the process (step in any time and correct me Meiah ha!) so trust yourself and go for it .. don't hold back :)

I'm talking about trusting yourself... if you can't trust yourself is is very hard to trust others... they are different ways of looking at the same thing

if I trust me then I really have to trust what is coming or what I am bringing into my life is right for me

all in all trust can be seen as a very difficult thing to give.. I really feel if we trust ourselves then trust flows and allows our life to flow more freely in that I feel freedom

meiah

You are both right, and yet trust goes beyond both of those ideals. Trust as a pure and simple concept. Not just of the self, or of the family (although it may first appear like that).

To be so completely open, and to have no fear whatsoever to get in the way of complete trust.

It is not a reliance, or dependance, or judgement before the fact.....just trust.

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